What is Love anyway??

" Well again I have stupid egg on my face!! I broke up with this man back in May that I having been seeing for the last 4-years for a number of reasons, only to stupidly start talk with him again over the last month and thinking that he was feeling the same as me....NOT!! Here's just a few of the things I was dealing with since the first of the year.. I was going thru some heavy Legal stuff with my 16-yr. Old son that was killing any joy or money I had the last 8-months, he dated this girl last summer right after we moved to a new town for about a month till he found out she was not really the age she said she was. Guess he really liked her till he found out. Then it scared him and he broke it off. Which turned into a very ugly thing 8-months later when we got served with court papers saying she was preg. Well we did all the rope jumping thru the system, at this time I found out they had been having sex. Only to find out after he stood up to what he thought he did, he wasn't even the father of this girls baby! But it's to late now because he plead guilty to sleeping with her, even tho they both were under 18. The courts say it is against the Law for anyone under the age to have sex! So they gave him one year at a youth center, which is 6-hours drive from where I live. I am really sad for him because so many of our teenage kids are having sex, but yet he was the one that told the truth and is now being punished..Just hurts me to have him go thru this, but I tell myself and him that this is good for him because he told the truth and hopefully he will learn from what has happen.

Then my other child she's (19-yrs.) moved a guy into live with her that ended bad for her. In some ways but in others not, she is now 10-wks preg. And moved back in to my house as her and this guy broke up because he was cheating on her with her so-called girlfriends (some friends is what I told her) because she was really scared about what was happening to her and the fact that she was now alone.

Then I and my soon to be husband, who I was suppose to finally marry in Aug. Are fighting about all my problems with my kids, which just made everything worse for me to deal with. Well according to him this was the real deal breaker on why we broke up, because I told someone we both new that we were getting married and they told someone who contacted him, and told him what they heard. Well long story short , he didn't tell them the same thing I did about us getting married, said the date was off or something. Not really sure how he put it but it was quite clear to me that he didn't want to marry me I felt and I was hurt and broke it off with him. Yes I know I did it a crappy way, I dumped him while he was on vacation back east on the phone because I was very hurt. Well I tried to move on and get over him, but it hurt really bad and I missed talking with him and being with him.

But I did try for 2-months having no contact with him, but then I thought maybe I could talk to him and it would finally be okay or maybe he would miss me as much as I had missed him. Well he moved on with this women that his family tried to hook him up with while we were still dating!! Yes 4-months before I broke up with him they did this, guess I wasn't worthy of him in their eyes is all I can figure out as I never did nothing to them. I tried to get to know them from what I understood they was not going to happen. Any way he started going out with this women after we broke up and now he tell me tonight that he is falling in Love with her!! Bit yet has been talking to me over the last month on the phone about really personal things between us, and calls me tonight to tell me that him talking to me is causing problem with his new girlfriend and him in his head because he thinks about me and him in bed a lot...

But he Loves her and I need to back off, more or less. Well I had said to him I thought he loved me still like I still loved him and he then told me that he was falling in love with this women who he has been dating for 2-month, not that he still had feeling for me but that he loved her!! Well this ended bad for me I told him I was hurt and I thought it was best maybe we shouldn't talk at all if that was how he really felt and I said fine and he said fine as we both were very angry at this point and we hung-up our phone call ( as we now live in different towns as I moved.)

So I ask you what is love any way and how do you know if it is ever real? And If someone says they Loved you for over 4-yrs, how do they just stop loving you so fast? Maybe he never did love me just told me that to make me happy? Because I don't seem to move on as fast as he did, and can't understand why I can't stop caring for this ASS!! Now I ask myself, what did I ever see in him to want to love him??

And why can't I just find a man that really wants to love a women who is willing to treat him like a king of her world if she feels loved by him. And who wants to spend his life with only me and sharing good or bad times together and still caring for one another.

So to all the people out there who happen to come across my blog or are readers of it, tell me where are all the good guys that want a women to care about them and love them? If you know of a guy who is worth of dating and you approve of him send him my way....Because this women has a whole lot of body and love to give to the right man!!

Because I am tired of being a nobody this man I have cared about, he has moved on it's time I did the same and stop making a fool out of myself....."

Do You Have Bad Breath?

"My daughters friend came over last week and I felt so bad, because she had the most foul odor coming out of her mouth!! In fact the min. She entered the room the smell just seem to float around her, I tried really hard not to say anything but it got harder and harder. Well she kept moving closer to me every time I would get up and move away, so finally I had to say sometime to her and it made myself and her feel really bad!! Well I told her it wasn't her fault but I wasn't trying to be rude but her breath was making me want to throw-up!! So I found this and thought?? I wonder if anyone else has had this happen to them, sides if I had stinky breath I would want someone who cares about me enough to let me know, because this young girl didn't think or smell anything like we did.

So!! ...If you are one of 90 million Americans suffering from chronic bad breath, here are some of the possible causes, as well as remedies to restore your fresh breath and relationships.

Top Five Causes of Bad Breath
1. A dirty mouth. Ninety percent of mouth odors come from mouth itself either from the food you eat or bacteria thats already there. Mouth odor is like any other body odor the result of microbes living in the body giving off byproducts. In the mouth, this means bacteria that normally live in the mouth interact with food particles, blood, tissue, etc., to create volatile (i.e., stinky) sulfur compounds. If you don't clean properly, the bacteria build up, and next thing you know ...That's not toothpaste on your tongue

2. A mouth out of balance. Certain mouth conditions can exacerbate bacterial growth and odor, such as gum disease and dry mouth. Gum disease causes bloody gums, creating more elements for those pesky bacteria to putrefy. But it is a dry mouth that is the more common cause of bad breath. Saliva helps flush out the mouth, keeping bacteria moving so they don't settle down and multiply, while drier mouth is a breeding ground for bacteria. In spring and summer, allergy medications can dry you out; in winter, dry heat tends to be the culprit.
3. Stinky foods. If it stinks going in, chances are it's going to stink coming out. The obvious offenders are onions, garlic, alcohol and tobacco. And foods don't only create a stench in the mouth. Plant oils are absorbed and the byproducts enter your bloodstream so you are actually breathing the odors out via your lungs three to four hours later.

4. Not enough carbs. You look great after four weeks on Atkins, so how come you still can't get a date? High-protein, low-carb diets cause your body to burn stored fats for fuel instead of carbs and can lead to a condition called ketosis. As fat burns, ketones build up in the body, and some are released through breath. Unfortunately ketones don't smell particularly good. And bad breath trumps six-pack abs.
5. Illness. Occasionally, bad breath can be a sign of a more serious illness. The most common systemic causes of bad breath are diabetes or GERD (or gastro esophageal reflux disease). Diabetes can also cause ketosis, and the resulting bad breath is sometimes one of first symptoms that lead to diagnosis. GERD is a backflow of acid from the stomach to the esophagus. Less common but possible are liver or kidney disease, when toxins from these organs are excreted through the lungs, causing bad breath.

Top Five Cures
1. Keep it clean. Gum, breath mints, mouthwash these are all helpful stopgaps, but they won't cure bad breath. The way to get rid of bad breath for most of us is to brush, floss and tongue scrape twice a day. Yes, for fresh breath, the key is tongue scraping. You can brush and floss till the cows come home, but it won't help unless you get way back. A tongue scraper is available at most drugstores. Doctor's swears it helped when they are suffering from bad. For most of us, brushing, flossing and tongue scraping twice a day will control bad breath.
2. Keep it moist. The best way to keep the right saliva balance is to drink plenty of water or liquids. To prevent dry mouth in winter, use a humidifier. If you snore or suffer from postnasal drip, try saline nasal spray to keep nasal passages moist.
3. Watch what you eat. Avoiding the main offenders (onion, garlic, tobacco, coffee, etc.) is the best way to avoid food-related bad breath. Research suggests certain foods can help: Two cups of tea a day can prevent bad breath for some. The polyphenols, a plant chemical in tea, may prevent growth of bacteria responsible for bad breath. You can also chew parsley, which seems to curb offending smells from other foods and bacteria. And cranberries may eliminate offensive smells and make the bacteria less sticky, which makes plaque is less likely to form. Sugarless gums that contain xylotol may kill some bacteria and help reduce plaque.
4. Eat some carbs. Apparently the only way to help the ketosis caused by low-carb diets is to eat some carbs. Recommends fruits, vegetables and whole grains over frosted doughnuts.
5. See your doctor. If tongue scraping and carbo-loading doesn't do the trick, check with your doctor to see if he or she suspects a more serious cause. Diabetes, GERD or other diseases require specific diagnoses and treatments. One more thing good luck to everyone hope this helps you as much as it helped me!"